Figure : Dr. Henry Cloud

"You end up closer to God. This person does not take you away from God. This does not mean that he sees himself as a spiritual giant. It's means that he shows you more of who is God is - God's love and God's nature - as a result of your relationship. He lives God's ways, and you can experience God togher.

You end up closer to others. You are more relational person and grow in your capacity to relate to others. You trust more, not less. You are more open, not shut down or kidnapped to just this relationship. You have grown in your relational capacities as a fruit of being with this person.

You become more of yourself. Instead of person causing you to lose parts of yourself to be around her, the relationship helps you find more of who God created you to be. You expand, grow, stretch, and become a better and more whole "you", not less of you." - "Safe People"

Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces.  (Matt 7:6)